One Decision And A Totally Different Life

 One Decision And A Totally Different Life

It may be that our greatest gift in life is that we are always one decision away from transformation. We are always one decision away from a new path, with new experiences, new beliefs, new identity. One decision away from a totally different life.

It's almost unclear that all the days leading up to now, everything we knew ourselves to be can be discarded and left with one swing of an exe gone. What is more miraculous than that? We live at the intersection of two imaginary worlds. Right the past and the future. The past is gone and essentially meaningless. Yet as the provider of our identity it still rules over us. 

Our sense of who we are comes from our collection of past memories. That imaginary world of yesterday like the elephant tied to the chair with the rope. It hasn't realized, It's strong enough to break free. It doesn't know that what can find him is not the rope but acceptance of a lie.

And that's with the past. That's what identity is a lie. We are not yesterday. We are right now. And from the minor things to the significant things we get wrapped up in that lie. We overlook the gift of control we have over our future.

What does it mean to say I'm not a morning person, that in your past you had not conditioned yourself to wake up early. What does it mean to say Oh I let people walk all over me, that in your past you didn't stand up for yourself. What does it mean to say I'm awkward or shy or I struggle with writing or running or public speaking. So maybe you did. But what does that have to do with right now? What does that have to do with realizing the control you have over your life? Because simply realizing you can disconnect from these narratives that they are not you is the superpower. Realizing that calling yourself a bad student because you failed a test was like never taking off your raincoat because it rained yesterday. Once you realize that right now is the beginning of the rest of your life. You can start making little changes.

Identify not who you were but who you would love to be and move towards it. 

Read the power of habit and atomic habit so you can understand that change isn't crazy or big or scary. It's moving little things in your life around. So that they work for you, not against you.

Start waking up and thinking about not what has happened but what can happen.

Not what can go wrong but what can go right. You are always one decision away from a totally different life. Because you are always one decision away from change from walking away from the narratives that you have accepted. But remember it not just when things are fine but remember it when you're struggling, when you feel restless or uneasy, unsure, uninspired, sad, angry, not content with the reflection in the mirror.

You are always one decision away from a totally different life and that decision should be first and foremost to choose future over past. Your next step over the last one choose your ideal world and start building it. 

“If you care about what people think about you, you will end up being their slave. Reject and pull your own rope.”

― Auliq Ice